Honouring the Masculine this Valentine's Day - Calling in Your Man....

LOVE love! It's so infectious.  All of the different ways to love, just light me up. Last week I posted my story of Awakening to the Feminine and shared with you that Motherhood and the love I feel for my children has propelled me forward to where I am today. It is all-encompassing. Each of my three children have given me a gift. I am so very blessed. It's easy to blame your kids for a perceived lack of freedom and energy, however when you sit down and think of all of the little things that your children do that make your heart melt, I guarantee this will help to move your mindset to one of seeing your children as enriching your life with gifts.
Today I want to talk about another love in my life, or rather the love OF my life.... my man, my husband, my king.

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Our souls have journeyed together in previous lives and I remember them, we've been together a long time.

The strength, loyalty and love that this man provides for me is amazing. Our relationship hasn't always been smooth sailing - and by that I mean we are both strong-willed and determined so it goes with the territory that we are going to get deep into the nitty-gritty around issues that come up! But that's the beauty of it.

We have also faced some incredibly hard life lessons together, the greatest being the diagnosis of Autism for our son Sampson.

Through mutual respect and communication we have managed to hang on to our relationship (sometimes by the skin of our teeth). We face those shitful things and we TALK about the hard stuff.

If I'm honest, and that's what I live by - honesty, I would say to you that I feel Mike has always given me more than I have given him. I'm not sure he would agree, but right now this is how it feels for me. Part of my week in San Diego with the Sistership Circle workshop/retreat was dedicated to a circle around Honouring the Masculine. This was so close to my heart as I live with 4 masculine energies!!! But what came through for me is how my man, my soul mate, my husband loves and supports me and this has enabled me to be the best I can be. How do you return that sort of LOVE?

By seeing him and loving him for exactly who he is, by inspiring him to step into his greatness. I had a dream once where I met his soul and my oh my he is magnificent! His spirit is so commanding and his presence is so great that I couldn't even see all of him - he was that big.

What a blessed woman I am.

For a long time I had no faith in men and I had quite destructive behaviours in my relationships with men. I finally realised that I deserved better and I needed to call in my man. So I made space in my life for this by stopping the destructive pattern, being by myself and going within. I also made a list of the things I wanted in a man and that I deserved in a man. He needed to be strong enough for this woman.

On our wedding night I read out that list to our guests with love and pride in my heart as there he was standing next to me. He had heard the call. 

There are a million reasons I could list as to why I love this man and how his love for me has allowed me to grow and embody my power as a woman, but it might not ever end! I will say that I love his eyes and I love his smell, I love the way he makes me laugh, I love the way he supports my vision, I love the way he respects me, I love that he loves my round bum and now I love it too!! I love the way he holds me, I love the way he nurtures me and I love the way he looks at me. I love that he provides for his family and I love the way he giggles with the kids... like I said the list could go on!

So with this love in my heart for him I am Honouring the Masculine this Valentines day with my one true love, my king, my warrior, my soul mate.

If you are in a relationship with a man right now, I invite you to look at all of the ways he is showing up for you and the ways in which he might not be - then accept and honour both. It may trigger something within you that says wow I really am a blessed woman or it may have you asking questions. Life and the people we draw into it are mirrors of our own soul, they are messengers. You could be re-evaluating your relationship and wondering if he really is meeting your needs the way you want. If this is the case I ask you to have a look at the way YOU are not meeting your own needs and also his.

I once watched a Dr Phil show and I have always remembered his advice about "deal-breakers" in a relationship and by that he means those values that you hold strong and you want in your life partner. Such as loyalty, respect, honesty, love, kindness etc. If those are not there then that is a deal-breaker for you, i.e. that relationship is not going to work and you value yourself enough to say no this is not for me.

After being in an abusive relationship for almost 5 years I know that I never wanted a man to disrespect or hurt me again, no swearing at me, name-calling, pushing, shoving, intimidating. I wanted to be treated like a queen not a piece of shit. So I had to treat myself like a queen, I had to be kind, respectful, loving, thoughtful and loyal to myself first. It was hard but I did it. This then opened the space in my life for Mike.

If you are single and wanting to create space to call in your man, why not try "Honouring the Masculine" this Valentine's Day by listing all of the qualities you want in a man and then write him a love letter.

If you already have your man then I highly recommend writing him a love letter telling him all of the ways you love and appreciate him, then read this to him on Valentine's Day. It's really intimate and sexy and empowering when you do this, my man just loved it!

Wherever you find yourself this Valentine's Day, my wish for you is to know and feel true love for yourself first and let it flow out into the lives of others.

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