What makes you feel safe? This is a question I have asked myself and posed to my leaders that I work with in order to start that process of understanding what it is we need to feel safe. Safety is one of those foundational needs that we have as humans in terms of keeping physically safe but what makes you feel safe to feel, to dream to desire, to ask, to receive, to believe, to love, to experience joy, to be empowered, to be honest, to speak out, to show up, to play, to laugh, to sing, to dance, to be-you-to-the-full?
When I asked myself this question a few years ago I realised that one thing that helps me feel safe is being organised and on time, my friends and family will most likely laugh because traditionally those have not been my strongest qualities!! In fact I can quite easily sabotage myself by trying to fit too may things into a 10 minute space of time, like hang out the washing, eat breakfast, clean three sets of teeth, check my biz back office, write a quick facebook post and listen to Voxer messages as well and then wonder why I am yelling at the kids to get in the car “quick, quick, quick!!” and flying out the door cos I’m 10 minutes late, feeling hot under the collar, and anxiously thinking Fuck now I’m late for my 9 o’clock call…blahblahblah… sound familiar? Talk about feeding a limiting belief of ‘not good enough cos ya can’t even get anywhere on time and you always let people down by being late’
When I started working more consciously with feminine and masculine energies within me (the yin and the yang) as well as universally and in others I recognised that being organised was a structure to help me, rather than to hinder me. For a while there I resisted the masculine energy cos I thought of it as constricting me, the killjoy of the party, the ‘sensible boring one’. When we talk about masculine and feminine energy the feminine is the creative, intuitive, feelings part of us (the Being) and the masculine is the structured, organised, logical thinking, planning part of us (the DOing).
But I’ve since learned and experienced that the masculine structures ‘hold space’ for the feminine to swirl about and dance and play and dream and get inspired and connect intuitively. Yet the feminine can only really be this way when it feels safe.
So I realised that acknowledging and becoming friends with the masculine energy within me would actually allow me to be even more in my feminine flow as it would free me up to have space to BE. So for me learning the art of being organised and on time became a focus.
It’s an interesting dance though and in my efforts to befriend my masculine energy I had swung out of Full on Feminine Vibe into Full on Masculine Vibe quite unconsciously (until a friend that I respect and trust pointed it out to me when I was asking for advice on something). I had completely gone into the DO-DO-DO and not created any room for the gentleness of just Being in the flow. There was no balance. I was on FULL ALERT and juiced up to the eyeballs on GOTTA GET SHIT DONE LIKE YESTERDAY LET’S MOVE MOVE MOVE!!!!
Now don’t get me wrong it’s a really useful energy to activate the ol’ masculine getting shit done, but when you press that button ON and gaffer-tape it to be ON like 24/7 the system starts to short circuit!!! Something I prefer to say is ‘let’s make magic happen’ so that I can draw in all my energies and that of the universal vibrational energies and draw what we desire in doing the actions necessary whilst being guided by our intuition. But with all that gorgeous knowledge I still found myself unable to STOP doing all.of.the.time and just BE, welcome to centre stage The Worn-Out Woman Peta.
If you haven’t already guessed I’m all loved up today and feeling all philosophical, I’ve just finished my Yoga Nidra practice using Frankincense (the King of Oil with a very ancient masculine energy that calls to your heart to remember the truth) and Lavender (Lady Lavender with a feminine energy that melts away the harshness and soothes the she-wolf) as my gorgeous essential oils to go even deeper into this practice of getting my RESTING on and I am feeling beautifully blissed, un-rushed and connected to me which is a great place to be #lovingpeta
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The first day I started my Yoga Nidra practice I was like a desperate she-wolf who needed her Yoga Nidra cave (but worn-out woman Peta didn’t know it) and I just couldn’t seem to find 20 minutes to myself. But I was so bloody determined to get my RESTING on that I grabbed a 20 minute window when one of the kids was down the street playing with his mate and the other two were doing their thing and the hub was still at work so I thought “RIGHT! This is it!”
So of course the kid down the street came back with his mate and they were yahooing (not a crime really except when the she-wolf is trying to DE-STRESS instead of being in DISTRESS!!!!) Anyway I digress, there I am trying really really hard to stay zenned (side note here - I’d already been challenged with the audio download not working and not having the right app to download it in so trying another only to wait for it to download and then tell me this file is not supported! I mean seriously???? I don’t really buy into the whole Mercury Retrograde thing of all technology grinding to a holt but I was starting to question it…) Anyway, another tangent I know, I’m the queen of Tangents I bloody LOVE them.
Anyway, Billy walks into my room ‘Mum, Mum!!!’ and I rise up like that crazed she-wolf searching for the pause button on my audio download trying to breathe deeply and stay ‘in the moment’ only to be told something that I can’t even remember cos it was that important and I wildly look at Billy and semi-growl MUM IS M.E.D.I.T.A.T.I.N.G!!! I swear to god any zen I had flew out of my ears and I ended up saying fucking on the out breath and hell on the in breath.
So as I ‘progressed’ from Day 1-5 in my book I read that sometimes it’s a good idea to make a sign and teach your kids that this is a time for mum and to respect that when the sign is on the door they can’t come in. So bless their cotton socks - cos that’s exactly what I did and then I think it was day 3 or something when I heard Sampson answer my phone (he’s the kid who can’t let a phone ring without answering cos this is = to a fate worse than death), anyway he answered my phone and I heard him say “mum can’t come to the phone right now cos she’s meditating” !!! Fuckin love those kids!!!
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So I think it’s actually working - this 40 days of yoga nidra #lovingpeta
For the first time in a while I felt energised, well hang on what I mean is I didn’t feel dog-tired. I actually felt normal and wow it was like saying ‘hello old friend - I’ve missed you’
Then this morning I felt really inspired and energised by some ideas that began percolating in my noodle as I was having a shower (having a shower or hanging out the washing are where I get the biggest inspired ideas or see things in a new light and come up with solutions to things)
Anyway so I stepped out of the shower and thought Right!!! Let’s bloody fire this up and DO this!! And then I started feeling a little niggle to mayyyyybe just stop, take a breathe and ask myself does this need to happen Right now? The answer that I FELT was no, the message that I got was babe this is a great idea hun, really great and isn’t it awesome to feel that sense of excitement and inspired energy again? What’s say we keep on with this beautifully restorative practice of replenishing YOU so that next year we can really bring this inspired idea to life from a place of feeling fully empowered as the well rested woman rather than the worn out woman?
Hmm well that’s different, what do you mean like wait for a bit? Simply ENJOY feeling inspired and energised but not act on it straight away when I’ve still got 3000 other inspired ideas that I’m following up on plus the other matter of feeling exhausted and trying to find a way of completely slowing down so that I can reignite my feminine intuitive and creative powers that comes from feeling well rested and soul-nourished?
Ohhh. OK. Let’s give it a shot.
In other news, I took the time to sit down and help Billy write Xmas cards for his class mates today after school, I took the time to chat with another mama at school pickup, I also shortened my ToDoList down to something outrageous like my top 3 VIP activities - ground breaking!! Fancy not having a ToDoList 30 lines long on an A4 pad of paper?? Revolutionary for the recovering perfectionist who’s fallen off the wagon and methodically and unconsciously looks for evidence to back up the I’m a shit person limiting belief that’s weaselled it’s way back in.
Bloody revolutionary I tell you!!
There are two other wonderful things I heard today from other awesome humans
1. Ask yourself ‘What would love do and What would love say?’ @foodalchemy
2. Lighten the fuck up. We’ve gotta stop taking personal development, spiritual journeying, saving the planet and ourselves so seriously @petajean_
#fuckperfect #yoganidra #lovingpeta
So I was feeling MASSIVELY tired yesterday and I think I was detoxing, Karen Brody talks about this in her book Daring to Rest that I am reading and following the 40 days of yoga nidra practice. She talks about how your body may feel like you are detoxing and hell yes I felt even more exhausted then when I began plus my throat started to get swollen and sore and I woke up this morning like I had a head cold, so I got my fab4 (Oregano, Frankincense, Lemon & On Guard) with a dash of Easy Air and rubbed them on my feet, I also put a rub of DigestZen down the bridge of my nose which is a cool little inside trick for oily lovers which totally relieved my blocked sinus’s.
It’s like every time I’m lying down for yoga nidra I am unlayering another outer layer that I’ve unconsciously wrapped myself in to keep me upright and forging onward - you know like the jingle “soldier on with codral soldier on, soldier on…” Instead of listening to my body’s (and soul’s) pleas to rest or be kind or take your foot off of full throttle cos we are on a roll right now, I would put on another layer of armour, don my helmet and with sword raised high charge on ahead. So now as I am removing these shields of battle my body is going ‘oh thank fuck for that woman, let’s lie down and sleep for a week’ and pulled on the handbrake forcing this worn-out woman to REST.
I have never identified as the worn-out women more so than now. And part of me is scared to share that with you because what if it means you don’t want to work with me or worse yet that you get the impression that building a doTERRA biz burns you out. It doesn’t. That’s the deeper learning for me to experience in relation to how I approach things. What you will experience I don’t know, but as a leader I am so committed to showing ALL of it because I’m just like you, a human being who laughs cries falls down and gets up again. If you were wanting to me to be your guru then that’s not what I’m offering in fact that’s your job not mine - I’ve already got a full time job being my own guru. What I love about this biz model is that it’s the BEST personal development ever - and I’ve done a lot, but this ride baby well this it’s like no other. So as I was saying if you are looking to me for all the answers, courage and strength my lovely you are giving your power away and I implore you to look to yourself for these things.
What you can look to me for is a partnership, a deep collaboration in which I share with you what is real and alive on this pathway that I walk before you and if I can clear a bit of the path for you just by sharing what I found then friend this is what I will do. I will be your biggest cheerleader, advocate, accountability partner and funny AF comrade as you have your own journey of personal development whilst building a biz that will create financial freedom through HELPING other people learn about using essential oils in their everyday lives and the cool part is the essential oils help you too.
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I did my yoga nidra practice this morning (code for lying down and resting) but before I did I continued to read the accompanying book and then giggled to myself as I read the part where it said try not to rush ahead and start the practice without reading Part 1 first - oops! No biggie but it is symbolic of a level of impatience that I seem to operate under. Then the thought of “I’ve done it wrong - I’ll have to start again which is probably a good thing because I didn’t have my intention set right and I didn’t hear any Soul Whispers” crept in, only to read the next paragraph in the book that says “don’t worry if nothing came to you, just note down ‘nothing’ in your journal” Oh fuck we are meant to keep a journal??? I haven’t done that!!! Ok breathe Peta - it’s all good in the hood - just start a journal now. So off I go to my office to find a beautiful journal with glorious fresh pages in it except all I can find is half used notebooks with old journal entries in them, Ok well I can just use this right? It doesn’t have to be a fresh clean empty one does it? Ahhh no Peta it doesn’t just pick a fucking notebook with a few spare pages to use as a journal!!! OK so where’s my favourite pens, hmm which colour will I use, I’m feeling gold but then again it’s not that easy to read the gold ink —— STOP!!! FFS use the gold pen! Another giggle and nod of the head as I take my half used old notebook aka journal and my gold ink pen off to my yoga nidra cave aka bedroom to get my RESTING on!
No wonder I’m exhausted, all that going on in my head and by noticing all this inner dialogue I notice the Perfectionist in me has really come out to play hasn’t she. Then I go on to realise hang on a minute - could this be the cause of all my exhaustion? This striving to be perfect bullshit? I thought I was over that? Ahhhh ‘parently not babe it would seem you have fallen off the wagon my girl. I have known of my perfectionist tendencies and I call myself a Recovering Perfectionist but I have right royally taken a big nosedive off of the wagon and I’ve been dragged along behind it in the dirt and dust bumping along scraping and scratching on the pebbles and stones and asphalt and divots tethered only by a tiny piece of frayed string called hope!
In the book Daring to Rest, Karen suggests we “chuck perfect” as perfectionism and the worn-out woman go hand-in-hand. Hmm seems she’s onto something here girls
Anyway I am giving it a bit of Peta flava and yeah you heard it too didn’t you? It’s actually fuck perfect!
So here’s to #lovingpeta and #fuckperfect !!
My blend today? It’s Hope - a gorgeous rollerball blend that smells so soft, gentle, loving and yes hopeful. When you buy this blend 100% of the proceeds go towards the Healing Hands Foundation partnership with Operation Underground Rescue or OUR Rescue which rescues children from sex slavery and trafficking and they also provide Aftercare to help these children adjust to their new lives. The HOPE blend was developed and donated to OUR Rescue specifically for distribution in high trafficking areas. Its comforting scent is not the only thing that sets this blend apart—included on the label was an 800 hotline number for those children needing help. A 10 mL roll-on blend is now available for Wellness Advocates to purchase and features a newly designed label. All proceeds from the doTERRA Hope Blend will go toward benefitting the doTERRA Healing Hands Foundation.
I love this company so much, so very very much.
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Over the coming days and weeks I am sharing with you about my return to sanity after a MASSIVE year in biz where I really burnt the candle at both ends and was in desperate need of a reboot hence I started OPERATION #lovingpeta Enjoy!
So last month my business had the biggest growth ever, the most new members we’ve had in one month, the most rank advancements in my team, the best paycheck and best month for me personally as I enrolled the most people ever (over 20) but I spent the month of November feeling absolutely miserable. Too miserable to enjoy the successes of my team, my business and my personal achievements - Why?
Do you know what I do to myself when I’m exhausted?
I find all the ways that I can prove to myself how much of a failure I am, it’s brutal, I completely derail myself. I have been the most unkind, unsupportive and unloving person to myself without even realising it in November and it was only after I recorded my stats that it hit me….Wow I can’t even let myself feel good about what I’ve created with my team.
I was so stuck in feeling like a leaders arsehole that I just couldn’t even see the good.
I knew I had been pushing and building and working so hard towards my Diamond goal that there was just no room for self-care until I reached this point of exhaustion where even the thought of those self care activities like a stroll on the beach or meditating felt too hard and too much work.
My cup felt well and truly EMPTY, depleted, bone dry, cracked, and almost broken.
And so OPERATION #lovingpeta has commenced.
40 days of Daring to Rest - a daily practice of Yoga Nidra (or lying down to rest in a yogic slumber) A program by Karen Brody.
After reading a friend’s post where she was describing exhaustion of another kind but exhaustion none-the-less and that she had stumbled across this program of REST, I thought that’s exactly what I need.
So today I did my first 20 minutes of lying down to REST and listened to a guided yoga nidra.
When prompted to set an intention and listen to the whispers of my soul - something that used to come so easily to me was out of my grasp - buried. But instead of beating myself up about it with inner dialogue of “you can’t even get that right” I told myself “it will come, for now dear woman - just rest, be kind to yourself and give yourself some love”. My body was treated to some all over body tingles and releasing the first layer of physical exhaustion - it was profound.
To accompany me was the gorgeous duo Rose Essential Oil and Copaiba Essential Oil which I’m calling my #lovingpeta blend
#selfcare #selflove #lovingkindness #successinrest #lovingpeta #liveloveleadwithessentialoils
STOP THE PRESS!!
Ok to give a bit of context here, Sampson has an aversion to loud sudden noises (think thunder/lightening/balloons bursting) like we are talking a LIFETIME of fear and avoidance at all costs sleeping in a darkened sound proof closet with earmuffs and cushions covering his head and either myself or Mike lying on top of him....WELLLLL TONIGHT WE HAVE TURNED THE TABLES PEOPLE!!!!
Tonight we went down to Somerton Beach and joined the throngs of happy families with a bag full of lemonade and lollies and a handful of courage with a pocket of good luck to watch the 9:30pm kids fireworks and WE BLOODY DID IT!! And what’s more we BLOODY LOVED IT!!
My favourite quote of the night from Sampson was “is it ok if I’m really enjoying myself?”
YES my darling it most certainly is!!
Happy New Years Darlings!!!
Then my husband said this: "Babe he's still the same person he was yesterday...he hasn't changed".
Of course!! I snapped back into reality and realised that it wasn't him who had to change.
It was me - I had to change.
So we threw ourselves into creating a life of opportunity for Sampson but the truth is - it was hard, really hard.
1 year ago we moved to the city to be closer to an Autism specific school. We had sold everything we owned and still found ourselves in 50K debt, I was on a carers pension and Mike was driving an Úber just to make ends meet and pout food on the table.
Then one day I was chatting with a girlfriend about how many Network Marketing people had approached us to work with them and my friend said "You know it really is a beautiful example of a feminine business model"
This was a lightbulb moment for me - suddenly I could see a pathway to freedom for our family, a way in which I could do something I love, sharing essential oils with others to empower them to take charge of their health & wellbeing to live the kind of life they want.
The ultimate surprise though was is how much these oils have supported us emotionally, physically and soon to be financially too.
And now when I look into Sampson's beautiful big eyes I think I truly am the luckiest mum in the world!
I actually did my most emotionally raw video ever on this very topic as a Facebook Live - did you see it? Watch it below. Why did I do that? Well it's not often we share the shit is it? I didn't do it so that people would feel sorry for me - cos I don't feel sorry for me, but I wanted to share that life has challenges that we all go through but there is HOPE and there is a way in which we can feel powerfully supported with something as simple as a drop of essential oil.
We all know someone in our lives (including ourselves) who is feeling stressed out, busy, lacking in energy, not sleeping well, struggling with the change of season, maybe the kids are driving you crazy or maybe it's a job that is sucking the life out of you - anything ring true?
Here's a beautiful thing you can do for yourself and 5 of your besties - invite them over to yours for a fun, relaxed info session on essential oils and how you can welcome them into your life easily and effectively, I'll bring everything and we'll sit around your lounge smelling the gorgeous aromas and sharing information. Email me or call now to book in a time - If you are not in Adelaide - no probs we can use the interwebs and I can Zoom into your lounge room, you'll have the samples in your hands and bish, bash, bosh! An essential oils class will enter you into this awesome prize pack to win over $360 worth of oils and resources.
If you'd rather a 1:1 convo - I'd love that too, email me or send me a Facebook message
And hey if you find yourself looking for a pathway to financial freedom too - let's chat because this is REAL and it works.
Seriously - one drop can change your life.
Love Peta xx
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