Self-love is Where It's At!

This month of February I have spoken of the love I have received in Motherhood and the love from my husband with Honouring the Masculine in my life. Last week I had planned on telling you all about the love I feel for the women in my life and my sisters from Sistership Circle - but I just couldn't. Last week what I needed was to go inward and practice self-love, which in the end I did but I fought it for a while let me tell you! So that is why I want to talk about the importance of Self-love. To love yourself is not selfish.

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To show yourself kindness and compassion, love and care, is essential to the wellbeing of not only yourself but those around you as well. If you are being a moody, grumpy bitch, chances are that those closest to you are absorbing that energy and throwing it right back at you!

But somehow we just resist this need to look after ourselves. That was me last week. I was totally stuck in my head space and pushing forward cos I "needed to get shit done" (or so I thought) and I kept ignoring all the signs my body was trying to tell me. Now, I've spent a lot of time getting to know my body and the messages it sends me - as an empath and healer so much information comes to me through the feeling channel or frequency, but for whatever reason I ignored those messages for myself last week.

My guides and angels were trying their hardest to get the message through as well, and eventually they went to my mum and compelled her to come over to my house at the exact moment I had decided to have a quick cry in the bathroom and give me the message of "slow down - stop pushing, it will all be perfect". Mum was great - she said "I was sitting at home and had this really strong urge to come over and tell you this but I resisted thinking I shouldn't tell you what to do, so I drew an angel card and it said *Speak Your Mind* so I hopped in the car to come and see you". Thanks mum and co xx 

So I did stop and I breathed and I listened and it all became clear.

Instantly my headache went away, my body stopped feeling tense and I had a smile on my face and joined my family for a beautiful weekend of fun and connection.

As good as I am at recognising the signs that I need some self-love I had forgotten one of the key elements...... 

Permission.

I hadn't given myself permission to take the time and space I needed to feel into my body and listen to what it was telling me. So often we look to others for permission and it's no wonder, given that, as children we are raised in a society that requires we seek permission from others such as our parents and teachers. Yet what about ourselves? We are the ones in charge of our own body, mind, heart and soul - we are the ones to give permission to ourselves.  Permission to be exactly who we are, there's no need to change or fix, we can just love, accept and show compassion to ourselves.

So my new favourite word is *Recalibrating* (thanks Tanya Paluso).

Halle-fucking-Lulea!!!! This was a huge breakthrough for me in terms of giving myself permission. I know how to listen to and read the signs and messages my body sends me BUT what I was stuck on was allowing myself to *change my mind*.

To change your mind simply means to get out of your head space, feel into your body - *recalibrate* and then tell your mind the revised plan!!!! I fucking love it!!!! I'm not sure if this applies to others but it sure-as-shit applies to me. Talk about a light-bulb moment Oprah style!!! It was a huge fucking flood-light - bammm. Oh ok I get it now....thanks universe. 

One of my favourite self-love rituals is my morning routine of Sun Salutations and my Chakra Breathing Meditation, it totally sets me up for the day because I'm welcoming in my divinity, getting grounded and feeling into my body - perfect! I highly recommend it. Was I doing this last week? NO! Am I doing it this week? YES! And hell yeah I feel fucking Fab. 

If you want to RECALIBRATE your life check out Leaning into Leadership, a fabulous way to make real changes in your life with personalised leadership mentoring.

Until next time (which will be soon cos I missed last weeks blog so this week there'll be two!!)......

Namaste
Peta xxx